So it's been ages since I wrote anything...
What are your favorite web or mobile apps? Which ones do you use everyday?
I Heart Radio.
I have an aux hookup in my car, so I can plug my iPhone in and listen to it through my speakers. I listen to I Heart Radio talk shows like Lex & Terry and Elvis Duran. It has radio stations all over the country. I spend about 2 hours a day in my car, so it helps pass the time. Sometimes it buffers for a while, which can get annoying, but it usually works pretty well for me.
Pandora is a close second.
Who are you dying to see in concert?
Ryan Adams. LOVE him. Saw him walking down the street. Didn't go to his show (which I could walk to from my office) because I had nobody to go with. Stupid reason to not do anything. I've learned my lesson.
He even performed my favorite song that night.
For the couple of ya who read my blog, my time at Vox has come to an end.
I'm switching to a public blog, which I haven't made yet. Ha. But I've suckered my boyfriend into doing it along with me. I'm excited.
I've become a fan of blogs like nerdyjess, prior fat girl, and my girl danulai, all who have more public blogs, and I've decided to go that route. Of course, that means I may have to censor some of what I spill, but eh, I'm boring anyway.
When it's set up, I'll post the new URL here. I will also still comment on my 'hood.
Love ya guys!
Kite
I love candy. I can't kick my sweet tooth cravings and I have no desire to try. So lately I have been finding small pieces of bubble gum on the kitchen counter among Buck's things. And it's not like a handful of pieces...it's just one solitary piece of bubble gum each day with Buck's stuff. At first I just didn't touch it, and then one piece would become two pieces, then three pieces. At the end of the week, there were 4 or 5 pieces of gum. So a couple weeks ago I was going to ask him about all the gum and then I noticed that they were all gone! So I forgot all about it until it started happening again last week. Again, I was doing dishes before going to work and I saw that one piece of gum sitting there. It looked very good and lonely and went to grab it but felt guilty and had to stop myself. Why was he saving that gum? I never saw him even eat it. I was thinking about it for a long time and finally figured it out. It's some cruel test he's putting me through to see if I would selfishly take his piece of gum, not thinking of him or the trials he had to go through to get that piece of gum. Frankly, I find it offensive that he thinks I would thoughtlessly steal his gum. So I've been making it a point everyday to eat that gum. I've been even leaving the wrapper at the very top of the trash, and the other day I left it on the floor right beside the trash can so it looks like I just accidently missed while throwing the evidence away. All to let him know that I know what he's doing and I don't think it's very nice. He hasn't said anything or even seemed to have noticed, but still he'll leave that piece of bubble gum on the counter almost everyday. And I eat it. Everyday.
I see alot of the same people everyday at the gym but I don't care to talk to them. Most of them I even avoid because they constantly gab with the other regulars. But there is this one guy who I make a point to wave to every day. He's a big black guy who drives a big black truck and I know he's in the gym when I am, but I NEVER see him working out. Except once, he was doing some ab exercises on a tiny machine that I thought would snap like a tooth pick underneath him. He looks very strong but very softspoken as the same time. I think he sticks to the aerobic machines and thats why I never see him. Anyways, I wave to him every day, usually as he either enters or leaves the gym, and only once has he ever talked to me. He stays out of my way, he doesn't hunt me down to waste my time with small talk. I love that guy. He rocks. I wish the other people would learn from that guy.
Today I wrote my letter of appeal for Legal Aid. I hope it works. It's below.
Dear Dennis
Reference Number :XXXXX/
Appeal to the External Review Officer – Legal Aid Result
Matter: How Much Time My Children Spend With Me Or The Other Parent
(Contact/Access)
I am writing to you in regards to your letter dated 15 June 2009. I am disappointed to find that my application has been refused for legal aid in relation to how much time my children spend with me or the other parent (Contact/Access).
In regards to the first reason for refusal I have managed to determine the address of the other party I am in dispute with. Please find it below:
<deleted for stupid cow's privacy>
I was especially disappointed to find that you were unable to justify the legal costs involved based on the benefit/detriment I may receive/suffer if legal aid was provided. For three years Lucien has been a major part of my life and I a major part of his. He calls me Mummy, refers to me as one of his mums in general conversation and is greatly confused as to why we no longer see each other. I have treated and loved him as though he were my own son and to not have any contact with him for such long periods of time is extremely distressing to me.
I have tried on numerous occasions to contact Deryka in regards to seeing Lucien for a few hours after school or over the holidays, however she has never answered or returned my phone calls or messages. The only time I am able to see him is when Rebecca comes down for holidays from Townsville and Lucien spends a few days with her, however this only occurs every three to four months.
Yesterday I saw Lucien for the first time since early March this year and seeing him, and hearing him express his feelings of loss has heightened my resolve to fight for what is best for him. Numerous times he expressed how much he missed me, asked why he wasn’t allowed to visit and told me that he loved me. After approximately three hours together I had to leave and his distress upon me leaving, and not understanding when he will see me again brought him to tears and brought on a flood of ‘I love you’ and ‘I miss you’ and ‘I don’t want you to go.’ The next time I may be able to see him will be in October if Rebecca comes back down to visit. If she doesn’t, and he goes up to Townsville instead, I don’t know when I may see him again.
The thought of this extended period of absence brings me to tears and breaks my heart. Not a day goes by when I don’t miss him and think about him. He was such a huge part of my life for such a major part of his development that I feel the loss of my little boy very strongly.
As you can see from my application, I am a full time student and while I would certainly be able to provide for Lucien during the times that he visits me, in no way can I afford the legal costs involved in taking Deryka to court to dispute this matter with her. As I can’t get in contact with her, and her history of confrontation with me, I believe that mediation would not resolve anything, if she even agreed to participate. I strongly believe that the only way I will be able to have regular access or contact with Lucien is if the court demanded that I be allowed to have this right.
Rebecca, Lucien’s biological mother, agrees that I should be able to see Lucien regularly and has tried reasoning with Deryka, however has been unable to convince her that it is in Lucien’s best interest to be able to see me. Deryka has never got along with me and has a huge issue with jealousy when it comes to my relationship with Lucien. The last time I spoke to Deryka was when she called me one afternoon in September last year after Rebecca had allowed me to pick Lucien up from school and spend some time with him. She found out that he was with me and spent 15 minutes abusing me on the phone saying I had no right to see Lucien anymore as I was no longer Rebecca’s partner, that he didn’t love me, I had ruined his life and that I needed to stay away from him or else she would take matters further. I won’t deny that Deryka intimidates me and that her history of violence, drug addiction and her previously controlling relationship with Rebecca scares me a little. Last I knew, Deryka was working as a prostitute from a private apartment in Alexandra Headlands and I haven’t known her to have another profession in the last three years.
I have spoken with several client information officers and a solicitor through the legal aid hotline and all of them have agreed that I have a right to see Lucien and that the Family Law system will allow me to have access to him on a regular basis. They were also surprised at the fact that my application had been refused and encouraged me to appeal to the External Review Officer.
I plead with you to reassess my situation and grant me access to legal aid so I can have contact with a child who I love and care for and who misses me as much as I miss him. I believe that it is in his best interest to have contact with me on a regular basis and that to deny this access will only have a negative impact on him in the long term.
I await your reply and hope that you agree that the benefit Lucien and I would receive by allowing regular contact justifies the costs involved tenfold.
Regards
Carla Bailey
Faith, belief, religion...
I am so sick of the holidays already and can't wait to get back to uni and be busy again. I am sick of not having a purpose and things to do and places to go.
Ok, so I'm using tonight (my last night without my girl, yay, she's all mine from tomorrow :)) to get everything on here that's been on my chest, and just a bit more. Haha.
Oh dear.
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